“First Impressions Matter”
You are sitting in a nice restaurant, enjoying a glass of wine and waiting for your meal. A tall, handsome man walks in. He is well groomed and wearing a well pressed designer suit. What is your first impression? Now, in a different scenario, you are sitting in that same restaurant. The same man walks in, but this time his hair is long and unkempt, his fingernails are dirty, and he is wearing ripped blue jeans and a faded, old T-shirt. What is your impression?
The first time that you meet someone, you form an impression of that person. It is an automatic response that we often give little thought to. It is a natural survival instinct that goes back to the days of hunting and gathering. When you came upon another person in the wilderness, you had to make a quick assessment. Was it someone like you? Or not like you? Familiarity meant safety.
We consistently make assessments about people by way of our senses, especially through sight. First we see their overall appearance, and then we scan the details. We look at height, weight, clothing, accessories, hair, etc. So what does this mean for you? Whenever you go on a job interview, meet with a new business associate, or go on a first date, you will be making an immediate impression. And first impressions count!
Success in career and relationships is dependent on the affect we have on other people. When we care about how we present ourselves, it shows that we care about the job or the person who we are interacting with. If you want to get that job, win that client, or get another date, you need to make a good first impression.
Present yourself according to the situation. When attending a business meeting, wear business attire. If you are interviewing a rock band, then dress casual. The point is to align yourself with the person you are trying to connect with.
Be on time.
Be well groomed, and dress appropriately.
Smile and maintain eye contact.
Thank the person for their time.
“There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.” ~ Dale Carnegie
Written by – Conny Jasper
Never before in history has there been so many different things to buy, or so many places to buy them from. We are constantly bombarded everywhere with messages telling us that we need to have the latest products being touted. All around us are constant opportunities to purchase every kind of bauble, gadget, or toy. And in spite of a slumping economy, American people are still shopping with a fervent passion.
In recent times, chronic overspending has become a major problem in our society. The growth of capitalism has created a huge demand for goods and services. It is estimated that about ten percent of the American population has compulsive buying habits. A lot of people are finding themselves without any kind of a savings, or worse, in debt over their head. Not only does this impact our individual lives, but it affects our businesses as well. Many businesses go under because of a lack of precaution and poor money management.
Compulsive spending is a form of addiction. Purchasing goods and services can be exciting. When we buy, we get high. It can provide a temporary escape from reality. Too much spending can also induce more spending, as one tries to keep up the momentum. For example, buying a new computer can lead to buying programs, speakers, back up drives, and other accessories.
What makes so many people spend their hard earned money so freely? There are many reasons. The biggest reason is that it is fun to spend money. One may ask, “What is the purpose of making money if I can’t enjoy it?” Yes, but everything within reason. What is the purpose of spending money if it leads to troubles? And the more one overspends, the more trouble it can create.
The society we live in reinforces spending through impelling advertising and marketing devices. Our imaginations are fed by the fantasy of having it all. We want to live well right now, not sometime in the future. We want to have a cushy lifestyle, when we really cannot afford it. But building financial success takes time. It does not happen overnight.
Money really cannot buy happiness. It can only give you a temporary feeling of euphoria, which soon fades away. Just like any compulsion or addiction, you need to keep buying in order to feel good. Many people overspend when they feel depressed or frustrated. Occasional pick me ups are fine, but when it becomes a regular habit things can get out of control.
Nowadays, with quick and easy credit, it is quick and easy to spend money. One of the biggest problems contributing to the urge to splurge is the almighty credit card. Credit cards make money seem as if it is not real. That little piece of plastic engenders a great deal of power. It is a magic wand that one can wave, and suddenly buy whatever one desires.
Sometimes people become over-optimistic about the future, thinking that there will always be plenty of money and that life will just keep getting better. They do not consider that life can hold unexpected events. Another reason some people overspend is lifestyle maintenance. They may suddenly have less income because of investment losses or unemployment, but they continue to spend in the way that they are used to instead of paring down.
Sometimes people overspend in order to keep up appearances. We want to look more successful than we actually are. Keeping up with trends is another reason that people spend too much. It is costly to maintain a fashionable wardrobe or stay on top of new technology. Because these areas change rapidly, it is important to buy smart and think ahead. Ask yourself if that new purchase is still going to be something useful in the following year.
Spending is an important and necessary part of life and business. But how you spend is the key to accomplishment. Spending wisely equals success. A person who succeeds in life and business is someone who paces himself. Patience is one of the keys to achievement. Impatience or impulsiveness is what leads to difficulty.
Business people need to treat their business as a business, not as a hobby. A hobby is a pastime that you spend money on, not make money on. Business is work. It may be work that you enjoy, but it is still work. And a business needs to be budgeted the same way that other areas of life need to be budgeted. What does your business need to focus on as far as expenditures? How much office space do you really need? How much technology does your business really need to invest in? Are you investing in the right kind of advertising and marketing?
Bad investments are another cause of money problems. Risky investments can bring large returns, but there is a reason why they are risky. And be wary of get rich quick schemes. If it seems too good to be true, it is. Know what you are getting into before you get into it.
Many entrepreneurs have lost everything because of poor speculation. A particular product or service may sound like a viable investment, but turns out to big a flop. Be cautious with your money, especially borrowed money. Research and know what you are investing in. Your reputation, and your company’s reputation, are important to success.
Overspending has its consequences. Spending can be exciting, but it can also cause a great deal of stress when those bills start coming in. Compulsive spending can lead to financial hardship and even bankruptcy. Many people have lost their homes and material possessions, as well as losing their spouse through divorce.
Debt collectors are relentless and bankruptcy can be embarrassing, even damaging. Collection agencies will call you everyday at all hours. Your wages can legally be garnished, and money can be withdrawn directly from your bank account. When applying for work, many potential employers will check your credit. If they discover that you have a bad credit history they will not hire you. The lifestyle that you lived previously will be seriously curtailed. You could also have difficulty applying for any kind of loan, renting an apartment, getting a cell phone contract, or buying a car.
The size of one’s income has nothing to do with compulsive spending. Overspenders can be at any income level. As a matter of fact, the more money one makes the stronger the propensity is to spend it. Many famous and wealthy people have incurred huge debts, made large business mistakes, and have filed for bankruptcy.
Henry Ford went into serious debt with his first motor company which ultimately went bankrupt. Charles Schwab, who made his money in the steel business, squandered a fortune on parties, gambling, and extramarital affairs. When the stock market crashed in 1929, he ended up in bankruptcy. Television show host Larry King filed for bankruptcy twice in his life because of large debts. Donald Trump owned two companies that went into bankruptcy. At one time Michael Vick was one of the NFL’s most handsomely paid players, and he was also a major overspender. He put himself into millions of dollars of debt and ended up filing for bankruptcy.
It is possible to recover from overspending. Like any compulsion or addiction, the only way to stop is to get a grip on yourself. Do not wait until you hit rock bottom. First, you have to admit that you have a problem. If you need assistance, see a counselor. Support groups can be helpful, also.
Get to the root of your problem. Identify the triggers that cause you to spend without discipline. What events or emotions induce the compulsion to spend? What are your thoughts and feelings about money and material things?
Be realistic about the money you have and what your actual needs are. Set boundaries for yourself. Stay within your means. Stop spending money on unnecessary items. Stop and think before you buy. Ask yourself, “Do I really need to make this purchase?”
Keep track of all your expenditures. Make a financial plan and stick with it. Most of the people who become financially well off do not get there quickly. They plan and build one step at a time with clear goals and effective strategies.
Written by-Conny Jasper
What Percent% of
Money, Personality, Trust, Conversation, Sex,and Love
make up a Great Relationship?
Some say there are key values that make up a great relationship.
I believe these are the keys and their percentages:
These percentages are based upon my personal beliefs on how our values of Love and Trust have changed over the years for us young adults ages 18-34. These percentages are not what I believe they should be.
I would say that these percentages are how things should be, but in this day and time who’s to say?
If you have any problems in your relationship, you should ask your partner what it is that they value most in your relationship. Discuss it and resolve your issues. Because even if your relationship works and both of you are happy with the way things are, your values may still be in totally different places!
What are your thoughts % ???
Written By Fatima Abed
Winter is here and you know what that means: dull, dry skin! Not to worry. Take a gander at these 10 beauty products that will leave you with radiant healthy skin without the holes in your wallet. This season, don’t let your skin be left out in the cold.
It is essentially important for people of all skin types to use a good moisturizer. Those who have oily skin, acne-prone skin or uneven skin tone might have tried moisturizers in the past that have weighed their skin down. Fear not, we have the answer: Aveeno Clear Complexion with total soy complex is a healthy moisturizer which contains salicylic acid (to help fight off acne) and soy complex to help improve the tone and texture of your skin. Aveeno Clear Complexion leaves skin soft, clear and blemish free.
If you’re going to wear it under your makeup this season, try using a natural mineral tint or healthy foundation such as Neutrogena Healthy Skin (which also contains soy for even tone as well as antioxidants) or Organic Wear by Physician’s Formula: 100% Natural Origin Tinted Moisturizer. Physician’s Formula’s tinted moisturizer uses EcoBlend, a unique compound that is certified organic and 100% free of harsh chemicals. The propriety blend in this tinted moisturizes consists of organic Jojoba, organic shea butter, organic sunflower oil and organic orange water to make sure you get that radiant, healthy glow. It also comes in four different shades in order to match your perfect skin tone. Dermatologist approved, both Neutrogena and Physician’s Formula are sure to have you not only looking beautiful, but feeling beautiful as well.
When you have oily skin, it is important to find the right cleanser that will leave your skin feeling clean and refreshed. Biore Blemish Fighting Ice Cleanser (featured in Allure magazine) cleanses deep within the pores leaving a tingly, refreshing feeling. Use it twice a day or whenever you need a fresh kick. This product may dry out skin depending on skin type, so make sure to follow up with a good moisturizer. For acne-prone skin, try using Aveeno Clear Complexion (mentioned above) or Aveeno Positively Radiant for more sensitive and dry skin.
Let’s face it, applying makeup is an art form that can be a long–sometimes tedious–process. Removing your makeup doesn’t have to be. Philosophy Purity Made Simple is mentioned in Allure magazine as one of the best all-in-one cleanser that leaves skin feeling smooth, baby-soft and completely hydrated while removing any excess dirt and all traces of makeup. So you no longer have to waste time washing, scrubbing and rewashing your face.
Worried about wrinkles or even past skin damage?
Olay Regenerist Micro-Sculpting Cream has been a hit off the shelves. According to Pamela PR from Olay, “Regenerist’s exclusive amino-peptide complex is proven to help visibly improve your skin’s appearance and reduce the appearance of lines and wrinkles.” Although this product works wonders, it is a good idea to test it on a patch of skin for a few days first, as some people are sensitive to high amounts of amino peptides. If you notice a rash or flaking, decrease usage to two or three times per week or discontinue use of product.
For those with frustrating dark spots, age spots, blemishes and acne scars, there’s Dr. Palmer’s Fade Cream. Use daily for even just a healthier overall complexion. Apply a thin layer at night, every night for the best results. It does take this product some time to work, so it could be anywhere from three to six weeks before you begin to see improvement in skin tone.
Have very sensitive skin or just want a more natural way to cleanse and tone? Check out these all-natural products below.
Organic and Vegan products? Lush is your store.
Oily skin? Herbalism please! Don’t let the green scare you a way! Lightweight and earthy, this organic cleanser will clear up your oily skin and leave it feeling soft and fresh. Did I mention it’s fun to play with?
Herbalism Facial Cleanser
Sold by weight, $13.00 for ¼ lb
Herbalism is a detoxifying, purifying and exfoliating herbal facial cleanser that is formulated for oily, sensitive skin. It contains China clay to remove excess oil, ground almonds and rice bran to exfoliate away dead skin cells. LUSH also added sage, chamomile and marigold to soothe inflammation, reduce redness and calm troubled skin. Rosemary revives the skin, nettle powder detoxifies and antibacterial sage oil banishes microbes. The combination of the clay-base and rice bran gives the skin a beautiful matte finish. Due to all the fresh ingredients, this cleanser has a shelf life of just three months, so make sure to discard by the expiration date on the package. To Use: Dampen your face with warm water. Place a pea-sized chunk in the palm of your hand and add water to create a paste. Apply to your face using small, circular motions. Rinse thoroughly and pat dry. For rest results follow with the LUSH toner and moisturizer that best suit your skin type.
Need a great organic makeup remover but don’t know where to turn? Physician’s Formula: Organic Wear 100% Natural Origin Facial Makeup Remover lotion is your answer. This product is a water-rinseable formula that is infused with ingredients such as Vitamin E, orange water and Jojoba seed oil. It contains antioxidants and soy to help nourish lashes and protect skin, leaving it soft and supple.
For those looking too keep their skin youthful and vibrant there is Tracie Martyn. Tracie Martyn is responsible for launching the “First All Natural Anti Aging Line.” According to the TracieMartyn.com, Tracie Martyn cosmetics are, “100% free of harsh industrial chemicals,” so feel free to pamper your face. This line contains a product for almost every single skin type and combats breakouts, oily skin, blackheads, dry skin, wrinkles, and even dark circles. This product has even been mentioned in Vanity Fair, so indulge and re-capture your youth.
For an all natural fading cream there is Derma-e Skin Lighten Natural Fade and Age Spot Crème. Like Dr. Palmer’s Fade Cream, this product gradually reduces the appearance of age spots and dark spots. However, this product doesn’t use bleach or hydroquinone. It takes a minimum of three to four weeks to penetrate the deeper layers of the skin. Results vary depending on skin tone, because this product slows the production of the hormone melanin in the body. If your skin is of a darker pigment, consult your dermatologist before using this product.
For all skin types I recommend Cocoa Butter. Dr. Palmer’s makes a good cocoa butter cream that is, like many of their products, all natural. Cocoa Butter has amazing scar fading effects, reducing the appearance of scars such as acne scars, skin discoloration and even stretch marks. Although it also takes a while to work, this product leaves skin very soft and smooth. It has a calming and moisturizing effect which is perfect for those cold winter days.
The secret to soft healthy skin is to cleanse properly and moisturize, moisturize, moisturize! Be sure to use the right products suitable for your skin type. Don’t let the dry winter air get you down. Show off that beautiful, radiant, healthy skin by taking care and sticking to what loves your skin best.
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The Gospel from the Source Institute
Cloistered in the picturesque Hun School of Princeton, the Source Institute for Human Performance is redefining the meaning of “wellness.” For Dr. August Leming, Columbia University Graduate with a Ph.D in Psychology, and President of the Source Institute, there lies a clear distinction between wellness as he defines it and how the greater fitness industry attempts to do the same. The main flaw in the industry’s conception of wellness is an infatuation with leanness. Leanness in most individuals is a genetic trait and all the rest of us can never reach or surpass that level. Dr. Leming believes that there are two primary audiences that the modern fitness institution (i.e. Gold’s gym, P90X, the Ab-Lounge etc.) caters to: Exercise “Enthusiasts” and those attempting to just enter an active lifestyle. The “enthusiasts” exercise for exercise’s sake. Dr. Leming states that most enthusiasts exercise to fill “one need but ignore many, many others…They are not enhancing their ability to live well and achieve optimal health.” The novices to the gym more often than not are victims of the modern fitness culture, believing that they must look like their idols, often blessed with superior physical genetics, and after a certain amount of time when they are unable to fit that mold, they feel as if they failed. Dr. Leming has witnessed this cycle over and over again from the perspective of the trainer, having been swept up himself in the wave after graduating school. Today he concludes that: “gyms tend to be narcissistic. While vanity is a source of motivation for change it doesn’t necessarily foster wellness.”
By Alex Bai
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On The Go!
For the young active and busy entrepreneur running a business that keeps you on the go, when you need updated information about some new company or business venture, here are these new gadgets that will deliver information quickly, so you as a trendsetter will not miss out on the next big thing!
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