Does Your First Impression Really MatterPosted: February 24, 2011
“First Impressions Matter”
You are sitting in a nice restaurant, enjoying a glass of wine and waiting for your meal. A tall, handsome man walks in. He is well groomed and wearing a well pressed designer suit. What is your first impression? Now, in a different scenario, you are sitting in that same restaurant. The same man walks in, but this time his hair is long and unkempt, his fingernails are dirty, and he is wearing ripped blue jeans and a faded, old T-shirt. What is your impression?
The first time that you meet someone, you form an impression of that person. It is an automatic response that we often give little thought to. It is a natural survival instinct that goes back to the days of hunting and gathering. When you came upon another person in the wilderness, you had to make a quick assessment. Was it someone like you? Or not like you? Familiarity meant safety.
We consistently make assessments about people by way of our senses, especially through sight. First we see their overall appearance, and then we scan the details. We look at height, weight, clothing, accessories, hair, etc. So what does this mean for you? Whenever you go on a job interview, meet with a new business associate, or go on a first date, you will be making an immediate impression. And first impressions count!
Success in career and relationships is dependent on the affect we have on other people. When we care about how we present ourselves, it shows that we care about the job or the person who we are interacting with. If you want to get that job, win that client, or get another date, you need to make a good first impression.
Present yourself according to the situation. When attending a business meeting, wear business attire. If you are interviewing a rock band, then dress casual. The point is to align yourself with the person you are trying to connect with.
Be on time.
Be well groomed, and dress appropriately.
Smile and maintain eye contact.
Thank the person for their time.
“There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.” ~ Dale Carnegie
Written by – Conny Jasper